In 2013, the year after my matriculation, I gained access to a book that would change my life forever. I recently came across a post on Facebook that asked ‘which book was it that you read that you believed changed the course of your life forever?’ and I instantly thought of this book, Rich Dad Poor Dad, by Robert Kiyosaki. You may be well familiar with this read, and if you aren’t getting your hands on a copy ASAP. It is actually one of the books that I have read that I will never say is overrated. It has lifelong lessons and information that we could all resonate with, especially if were born into a lower, middle, and missing middle-class household. It teaches us the fundamental differences between a household where there is a spirit of winning, becoming rich, and gaining generations and generations of wealth. It also highlights how the rich continue to be rich if not richer and why the poor stay losing.
It was just after high school when my friends were jetting off to university where they would religiously study into a course that would pave the path for the rest of their lives. I was very confused, and maybe a part of me can say that I didn’t spend too much time thinking about which course it was that I wanted my life to go. Not only did I have an idea once I read this but I knew that I certainly wanted to be rich, like not just rich but “rich rich” and this was something I definitely wanted to pass down to my children and grandchildren, that kind of mentality. Not the mentality to be rich, but rich dad’s mindset. I became aware of the fact that what separates the rich from the poor is simply the way we perceive situations. Rich dad sees an opportunity in everything even if it may be considered as disastrous to some, rich dad always looked at a life filled with endless possibilities and poor dad was the opposite. When poor dad sees a situation that is extremely unplanned for and seems impossible to overcome, poor dad saw a dead end.
The best advice I got from this book is learning how to mind my own business. No, it’s not as it sounds. Most of us who have entered the working world, where we have to fight on a daily to make ends meet, are caught in that 8 to 5 job. Not everybody hates this by the way, but they do encourage us to want more from life. There is absolutely no shame in wanting more than what life has giving you, but you have to go and claim what you want to be yours, hence the concept of minding your own business. If you do find yourself working at that 8 to 5 job, be grateful for it of course, but also create time to work on your own, just like they have you working on their own right? The idea is to take what you are learning at work and apply it towards your business idea and concept. For an example, if you work in IT or are a marketing coordinator at any respectable company, what you learn from and do for your boss is exactly what you apply and do for your craft. Mind your own business. Get home from work every day, take some time to enjoy with your family, unwind, relax, take that night shower, and work on your baby.
Robert Kiyosaki talks about the Rat Race. The rat race is the idea that your whole life has been narrated to you and what you have been taught is basically a trap within a very vicious cycle. Go to school, they said, you better get the best grades, go to university, graduate at the top of your class, find a good-paying job, that comes with benefits, work hard, they said, get that promotion, etc. you get the idea, this is the cycle that keeps you in a position of constantly serving others and doing right by others just so you can survive. A key aspect of all of this is the idea of working smart and not hard. Not that you shouldn’t push as hard you can for your dreams but if you get people to do that for you, all you have to worry about is working smart, like thinking of creative solutions or strategies in which you can outcompete your competitors, but those are rich dad problems. But the first step to getting out of this cycle, and refraining from becoming a John Smith for the rest of your life is by Minding Your Own Business until you are strong and have enough ground to believe that you can stand on your own. It is actually just a safe and smart way to get the ball rolling for your journey towards becoming a successful somebody one day.
So that brainstorming meeting you had at work today, play around a bit more with it and see how you could apply it and other creative ideas towards your own business. The marketing strategy that your supervisor approved, test it on your brand. Play around by asking questions that are also related to your brand that somebody of better and longer experience can share with you, whatever you do work on and mind your own goddamn business!
AUTHOR: KEFILWE MABOTE AND LEBO GRAND
PUBLISHED: 1 APRIL 2020
PUBLISHER: HUMAN & ROUSSEAU
GIRL BOSS RATING: 4/5
We knew her as Kefi Boo and now her Instagram handle is her real name Kefilwe Mabote. She is one of the leading influencers in South Africa. Kefilwe Mabote is a 31-year-old female who has made a name for herself from Soweto all the way to Milan. This girl boss has 992k followers on her page and has worked with amazing brands.
Her book is a cross between a business guide and memoir, she shares her journey of humble beginning in Soweto to the World’s fashion capital Milan, hence the sub-title of the book. This book is truly the perfect guide for someone who is starting a business or tapping into the influencer world. She touches on what fuels her motivation and drives to achieve greatness. She says “Sometimes it takes anger to be successful… there are successful people who were driven by poverty, some were driven by fear of being average, while others were motivated by the belief that the future could be better than the present. In my case, the emotion was anger”. For years people looked at Kefilwe and saw a pretty face. Jumped to the conclusion that she was a beauty with no brains. She shares that it was her mission to silence the naysayers and bullies who didn’t want to see her as more.
Finding your voice has to be one of the hardest things to do in the process of self-discovery. I really enjoyed how Kefilwe emphasised on knowing your voice, having a voice, and using your voice to make a difference. Her journey is transparent as she highlights that being a strong and confident woman isn’t something you will achieve overnight. Another section I really liked in her book was “Charge what you’re worth”. We often are very scared to charge according to our values or capability. This section of the book can be related to many spheres of your life. Not just business. it’s very important to know your worth. Once you do, you won’t take nonsense or less than.
So as seen above, I’ll give this book a 4/5. Your question might be why not 5, well because I didn’t read the book in one go. I read it in sections. I’ll blame my busy schedule but I think any other person with more free time can finish it in one go. If you are an influencer or aspiring influencer, this is the perfect book for you. It will motivate you and guide you on the right path. You will find yourself answering important questions.
Kefilwe Mabote is in her own lane, chasing after her dreams and isn’t letting society or abantu bazothini syndrome stop her. Worth the purchase and read.